Monday, 21 October 2019

Principles - The Closing of a Decade, The Beginning of Another.

This year has been beyond incredible for me. Dreams have literally come true, goals smashed, and opportunities, bigger than I imagined, present themselves to me. But in order to build on all these, I know I have had to make damn sure my foundations are right.

When you start to build something everyone knows that you better get the foundation right. Otherwise, the more you add to the building, the more likely it is to fall. But there is also a cost to building right, namely time, patience and standing against those who wish to cut corners or use cheaper materials. 


It's not much different when it comes to translating this over to how you build your life. 

At the beginning of the year, I was faced with a lot of tough choices. Ones which were important to me, but would potentially upset friends who took them personally. I drew a boundary and it was instantly mistaken for rejection. I made decisions based on my own well being and principles, and it was perceived as foolishness. But where I experienced negative responses from friends, in came an unexpected opportunity, offer or a new friendship.

It was really tough, but somehow things were made better by the good that often followed. 

As the year went on I began to notice that a lot of people were choosing money over morals. Enabling poor business practices by supporting them for their own financial gain. Often at the risk of losing out financially again. Yet in the same breath saying they feel they have no choice.

BS.

There is always a choice. 

It is our principles, our guiding morals, that determines our choices. This involves facing our fears. In fact it will expose them...fear of lack, fear of what people will think, FOMO, etc etc.

It's how we handle fear that determines which choice we make. 

Sometimes, either choice will upset someone. It's a question of do we go with what's right, trusting things will work out, or give in to fear at the cost of what's right, losing good people in our life. 

I understand this all may sound a bit cryptic, but this year really has for me been about making sure my foundations are right. That my core group of support believes in me and my vision just as I believe in theirs. Because when something incredible comes up in your life, you want to be bloody well certain that the right people are celebrating in it with you. 

I think this has been what 2019 has been about. The closing of a decade and the preparation of another. I am at that time in my life where I don't want to waste another moment sacrificing what matters to me in order to please others. When we do this, we also sacrifice our truth and all the good that comes with it.

Something to think about as we head into a new decade! 

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