Wednesday, 6 November 2019

NOvember - My Personal Experience in Learning to Say No


Google NOvember and you will see that there are many campaigns encouraging people to say no to some pretty serious abuse. Such as drug abuse or violence and sexual exploitation. 

But as the hashtag is expanding to include other topics, what about day to day things that may be seemingly insignificant to some but are causing stress or anxiety to others? It's these seemingly insignificant things I started saying no to this year...

Looking back on the past year, and decade, gives opportunity to put a lot of what has happened into perspective. With plans being put into motion for 2020, I would like to move beyond all that has happened.

To all I have offended. It has never ever been intentional. This year I needed to learn to say no and walk away from things/places that were not good for me. And I needed to say no to things that I simply did not want to do. I have been such a people pleaser for so long that saying no felt impossible. And it came at a cost...that cost was my truth.

In order to speak and live my truth I knew I had to start learning to say no. 

As I started to say no and it offended someone, they had no idea the strength it took within to say it. Inside I was terrified. 

Next came the time to start walking away. This was scarier because I knew I would be misunderstood. 

And I was. 

Earlier this year I walked away from an online group. Actually I left a few, but only one caused misunderstanding. I literally just walked. I snuck out of the back door. No drama. I had my reasons...many of them. They had been building for a while. But I decided that I would keep them to myself in order not to cause drama or sway opinion. 

However, it didn't go down too well. I caused offence just by leaving and such an action was extremely misunderstood. Being put down to a single fact...I left because I was offended myself. 

Not true.

But you know, it's okay. 

It's okay because I have more self-confidence than I did a few months ago. Saying no does that to you. At one time it would have bothered me but today I close the door. I'm moving on. But before I do, I want to say this to everyone who I've upset.

I'm sorry. I'm genuinely sorry my actions offended you and I'm here if you ever decide to put the past behind and move on too. 

I am not sorry for my boundaries. 

I am not sorry for standing on my morals and principles. For speaking up about injustices.

They are so incredibly important to me. It took a lot to be brave enough to start living by them. 

Years ago I vowed to not be a victim, waiting for someone to come save me, but to try and be the best version of myself possible. It's only now I'm learning that boundaries and no's are part and parcel of that.

I genuinely wish all I upset the very best. Next year is going to be an incredible year and I really do hope your dreams become a reality. But if we cannot go into 2020 together, that's okay. Just know they are no ill feelings on my part. 

Geraldine Xx










Monday, 21 October 2019

Principles - The Closing of a Decade, The Beginning of Another.

This year has been beyond incredible for me. Dreams have literally come true, goals smashed, and opportunities, bigger than I imagined, present themselves to me. But in order to build on all these, I know I have had to make damn sure my foundations are right.

When you start to build something everyone knows that you better get the foundation right. Otherwise, the more you add to the building, the more likely it is to fall. But there is also a cost to building right, namely time, patience and standing against those who wish to cut corners or use cheaper materials. 


It's not much different when it comes to translating this over to how you build your life. 

At the beginning of the year, I was faced with a lot of tough choices. Ones which were important to me, but would potentially upset friends who took them personally. I drew a boundary and it was instantly mistaken for rejection. I made decisions based on my own well being and principles, and it was perceived as foolishness. But where I experienced negative responses from friends, in came an unexpected opportunity, offer or a new friendship.

It was really tough, but somehow things were made better by the good that often followed. 

As the year went on I began to notice that a lot of people were choosing money over morals. Enabling poor business practices by supporting them for their own financial gain. Often at the risk of losing out financially again. Yet in the same breath saying they feel they have no choice.

BS.

There is always a choice. 

It is our principles, our guiding morals, that determines our choices. This involves facing our fears. In fact it will expose them...fear of lack, fear of what people will think, FOMO, etc etc.

It's how we handle fear that determines which choice we make. 

Sometimes, either choice will upset someone. It's a question of do we go with what's right, trusting things will work out, or give in to fear at the cost of what's right, losing good people in our life. 

I understand this all may sound a bit cryptic, but this year really has for me been about making sure my foundations are right. That my core group of support believes in me and my vision just as I believe in theirs. Because when something incredible comes up in your life, you want to be bloody well certain that the right people are celebrating in it with you. 

I think this has been what 2019 has been about. The closing of a decade and the preparation of another. I am at that time in my life where I don't want to waste another moment sacrificing what matters to me in order to please others. When we do this, we also sacrifice our truth and all the good that comes with it.

Something to think about as we head into a new decade! 

Tuesday, 1 October 2019

Vintage Bright - A New Collection by Geraldine Jayne

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The Vision

Some years ago now I had an idea to fuse both vintage and modern brights to create a collection of beautiful handmade products. I fell in love with colourful vintage fabrics, soft lace, vintage crochet/embroidery, brooches, and bright modern colours. By blending all these together I would be combining old and new to create unique pieces. The vision became a solid plan, labels were ordered, but I had to put it on the back burner.

Fast forward to today and the time came to revive the dream. When I first had the vision, I hadn't heard of Travelers Notebooks. So today, these were added to my list of things to create.

Each product idea can start with something simple as being inspired by a scrap of fabric, or old brooch. Some ideas are built on a vision board, like this one for my pocket TN.



By rescuing pre-loved, unused fabrics, beads etc, I would be creating a much more ecological friendly business, while at the same time breathing new life into everything I reclaim. 

The Range

The range will consist of unique, one of a kind fabric TN's (or fauxdori's), Beaded bookmarks, junk journals, TN/planner covers and bags. 



Some fabric TN's will be embellished with various trimming, charms, brooches or embroidery. I have lots of ideas for them but as is always the case these things take time to make. They are unique works of art and as a result one of a kind. 

You can also buy beaded bookmarks, a combination of modern and reclaimed beads, to coordinate with your TN.

There will be beautiful junk journals, made how I have always wanted my own journals to be. These will be added in time over the next few weeks, as will more products, such as the covers and bags.

You can visit my shop now over at geraldinejayne.com but it won't be launching properly until 7 pm gmt October 1st

If you are a patron of my Patreon, you get your very own discount code to use in store. 

Thank you so much for stopping by! 

GJ Xx 



Tuesday, 3 September 2019

Junk Journal Process Video


I hope you enjoy this video process of a junk journal spread I created. This is an unlocked video from my Patreon where I feature content such as:
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Dream Create Journaling Challenge


Prompts:

2. Set Your Intentions
3. Create Your Vision
4. Equip Yourself
5. Positive Self Talk
6. Plan Your Peace
7. Be Yourself - What makes you unique? Journal about your quirks or interests that others may find weird.
8. Get Outside - Go for a walk , whether it's town or country, and pay attention to details. Take one photo & journal about it.
9. Distractions - Good or bad, has anything been distracting you? How can you change this?
10. Serendipity - Be aware of serendipitous moments and begin keeping a log of them in your journal.
11. Artists Date - Schedule in & Take yourself on a date to a place you love or one that inspires you.  
12. Celebrate The Wins - Journal about a recent win. Big or small a win is a win!
13. Printable Quote:


14. Role Models - Reflect on people who inspire you. What is it about them that you find inspiring?
15. Believe Big! - Journal about what hinders you to REALLY believe the seemingly impossible. How could you change that?
16. Story - Find a true story of the seemingly impossible. Read/watch it and journal your response.
17. Book - Buy a book on your chosen topic.
18. Amulet - Find a stone and speak over it your biggest dream. Carry it around with you as a reminder.
19. Your Why - What gives your life purpose?
20. Spirituality - Do you have a faith? If yes, journal how this helps you. If not have you ever considered exploring any?
21. Pay Attention - What in day to day life do you give your attention to the most? Does this help or hinder?
22. Re-Vision - Go back to your vision board. Has anything manifested from it yet or is there anything you'd like to add/change?
23. Ritual - Can you change up your daily routine to include ritual? What would your ritual look like? Get creative.
24. Personal Mythology - We all have one. Journal your ideal life story. Be as wild as your imagination will allow.
25. Power of Yes - What life changing yes can you make, as scary as it may be? Journal about it.
26. Power of No - Are there any no's you need to start making? For example, toxic friendships? Journal about it.
27. Release & Forgive - What hurts or burdens do you need to release? Journal about them and decide to forgive that person/people or yourself. 
28. Be The Change - In light of your dream, how could you use it to make the world a better place?
29. Reflection - Read through your journal entries and reflect on any changes that have happened since the beginning of the challenge.
30. Recommit - Decide whether you wish to carry on pursuing your dream or whether you wish to change it. Write out a declaration of commitment and new vision statement.

Tuesday, 6 August 2019

Day Six - Plan Your Peace


Are there any changes you could make to your schedule for at least a solid month, in order to pursue your goal or dream? Brainstorm in your journal about this.

A very good planning workshop is Ali Brown's Plan Your Peace. I highly recommend this workshop as it's jam packed with valuable tools and priceless knowledge. 

Day Five - Positive Self Talk


Pause for a moment and contemplate how you talk to yourself inwardly. Journal any negative self-talk and then turn it into a positive.

Check out the following Pinterest board HERE for positive power quotes to help you. 

NOvember - My Personal Experience in Learning to Say No

Google NOvember and you will see that there are many campaigns encouraging people to say no to some pretty serious abuse. Such as drug ab...